By Peter Utgaard

Great admiration can be achieved from such herculean tasks as kicking a ball, jumping over a stick or sliding a rock slowly toward a bunch of other rocks on polished ice while people sweep frantically in front of it. The euphoria felt by excelling at such tasks is unparalleled. However, the adulation received from these successes comes only from a select minority of fans. So, the sport of choice for more and more young men is picking up women. It doesn't pay as well, and exercising does help, but the rewards are much more constant, more direct and you don't need to be in the upper first percentile of all competitors to win.

Story I.

A female friend and I were were shooting pool in a sleazy bar where you might expect drunken men to make lewd passes at women. Shockingly, a drunk man leaned over and slurred, “Are your breasts real?” After lying to him that they weren't, she left the bar and the gentleman in question no doubt spent the night furiously masturbating into women's underwear.

None of this is true, but by and large these things happen. This man honestly found her attractive, and genuinely wanted to sleep with her...but he didn't care in the slightest how she felt about it: Sex is something men get from women, not something shared.
One way to eliminate how unpleasant that hypothetical interaction could have been, is for the man in question to learn how to talk to women to trick them into giving him sex. The seduction community offers such help. However, it wouldn't deal with the underlying issue: that his relationships with women are crippled by his inability to empathize with them. He cannot understand women, essentially, because he doesn't understand that they are people.

But even if he can't understand women as human beings, he can understand women as problems to be solved. And the seduction community has the key.

Story II.
A female friend of mine had gotten off work at the bar she worked in when a borderline sober, well groomed man began making very charming passes at her. He complimented her clothing, asked probing questions, elicited her values, and made jokes. The whole nine yards. When she went home he walked her to the bus and then made his move: “Stand here.” And he motioned to the curb that would bring her up to the perfect height for a kiss. Her first instinct was to do it, but she hesitated and ultimately decided against it, bidding him good night, to his genuine surprise. Anecdotal, but entirely true.
 
At first she felt pretty good about the whole interaction, but something nagged at her and before long she felt sick. She had been manipulated. Basic psychology, suggestion and sheer confidence had almost led her to do something that she wouldn't have considered normally. She realized she knew next to nothing about this man, and what she did know was a constructed persona for the express purpose of luring people like her into sexual encounters.
She realized that she had been mistaken: when she thought he was relating to her, he was in fact viewing her as a piece of his mass concept of 'women' with no thought of anything but his End Game.
 
As unnerving as some of the techniques promoted are, (if a hypnotist had sex with a patient he would rightly go to jail), the biggest problem is the underlying mindset. After all, if The Game is how well men can get sex from women, and not to share a physical and emotional experience with another person, then it becomes very serious when, like any other game, people inevitably cheat.

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